So, I mentioned this article to L this morning along with the comment that finally there is a judge with some common sense. The article is about a 33 yr old female teacher having sex with a 15-16 yr old boy. The judge suspended the 2 year sentence against the woman because he could not decide that any harm was done.
We are having a girl soon (beginning of Apr) so the battle of the sexes is a place of contention for us. In some ways it is the fact that I am a pragmatist and in others it’s because I’m a little old fashioned. Her quip was “would it have been different if it was a girl and a male teacher?” Yes, it would have. It would have been very different.
Whether or not the assumed difference between boys and girls sexually is real or made up by society, it is there. I’m sorry, but it is. Hate me. Sex is a penetrative act. Sure, sure, you make love to your partner 100% of the time. There is nothing penetrative about the experience that you share exactly evenly with your partner. There is no dominance or submission. It’s beautiful and cherry blossoms fall upon your bed as it happens. In slo-mo, no doubt.
Sorry, I drifted off there for a minute. Where was I? Penetration. It’s there and males will try to dominate since they are usually the penetrators, hell they will try to dominate even if they aren’t. I hate to say this but it really has a great deal to do with upper body strength and a hunters attitude. I assure you that while we have come a long way baby in the last 50 or so years, it hasn’t even begun to erase the thousands of years of genetics and training.
I’m not saying anything about the equality of men and women or boys and girls. I’m just saying that we live in a physical world and the physical has to be accounted for. I’m not saying anything about the intent of the elder person, I’m sure male or female they are looking for a sexual connection. However, I am sure (from being a guy) that a larger part of it has to do with dominance, conquest and destruction of something pure when it comes to the elder being a male. I said that as easily as I could.
I wish it was no different. I do. One day I think it will be, but for now I will keep my shotgun close and my eye open when it comes to my daughter. As for the boy? I hope he gets laid real soon.